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A man and a woman go to the movies together. He thought it was an obvious date. She could not have been more shocked when he said, "Two, please."
Sound familiar? Of course it does. Often, it seems like men are saying one thing and women are hearing another. So to clear up the confusion, here's a dictionary of what guys really mean during the dating process.
The guy who sits next to you in class always asks about how your weekend went. Except today he adds, "Hey, do you wanna go to Yogurt Express tonight?"
He thinks: "I'm asking you out."
She thinks: "He must like yogurt as much as I do."
Ladies, I'm sorry to burst your bubble. Coffee's a date. Yogurt Express is a date. Lunch is a (bad) date. Guys really don't ask girls to "hang out." It's that simple.
Basically, this is the low-pressure way to ask you out. He's not sure if you like him but wants to find out. He's gauging your interest in him (even though you're gauging your interest in a bowl of "Wow Cow brownie").
Basically, this is the dating equivalent of the quarterback sneak. It's not going to get him very far, but he wants to move things along a little bit and is hoping a small, low-pressure date like coffee might do the trick.
Things went so well at Yogurt Express that you're discussing the second date in front of your car. He says, "Do you want to come inside so I can show you that new book?"
He thinks: "It's go time."
She thinks: "I really do want to see a book of Ansel Adams' photos."
Again, it's much more low-pressure than "Nice dress, wanna take it off?" The reality is that the book is just a ploy. If a woman accepts the invite in, she shouldn't be surprised when he's more forward inside.
After a couple of dates, he calls to say, "Can I make you dinner tonight?"
He thinks: "If she comes over, I'm gonna score."
She thinks: "Dinner sounds nice."
So far we're assuming that you've spent your dates at nice, safe, public places such as restaurants, movie theaters and the like; and that your physical interactions have been nice, safe, public displays like holding hands or chaste kissing.
Well, if frozen yogurt or coffee is the quarterback sneak, cooking dinner is the Hail Mary. He's going for the score with this date. Think about it. He's on his turf, you loved his meal and you're enjoying that bottle of wine.
Don't be surprised when after dinner he wants to watch a movie in his room because "the TV in the living room is broken."
So things didn't work out on any of your first couple dates. He says, "It's OK if you just want to be friends."
He thinks: "She'll see how awesome I am … someday."
She thinks: "Awesome, we're going to be best friends."
If he was trying to date you, being friends is probably not going to work out. No man wants to believe that you're impervious to his charms, so we'll sometimes believe that we just need a little more time.
If you're not interested, do him (and you) a favor. Tell him no. That has a pretty obvious meaning to men and women.
-Devin Kunysz is a marketing senior who would love to take you to Yogurt Express sometime … Really? You just wanna be friends?
-This column does not necessarily reflect the opinion of The Daily Aztec.
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